When I was a kid, I asked so many questions but many of my questions were answered with slaps—which means ‘shut up’—don’t ask anything again. Your questions might not be answered with slaps if you were born in a developed country but I bet you’ll be scolded if you dare ask some questions.
Either being slapped or scolded, my point is your curiosity has been stifled ever since you were a kid. This has also followed you to your adolescent that you believe asking questions is a sin.
If you want to make hay, walk in the path to making a difference, then you must bring back your curiosity. Don’t joke with words like, “Why? Who? How? And When?” These words are question amplifiers. For example, have you asked who named the colors? Why is the color green green and not yellow?
Curiosity isn’t dead. It’s part of us. And it’s there for a reason. To question our existence, to question our purpose, to question things that seemed mystery to us. So, ask questions as many as possible. Because curiosity is alive. Make yours live.
“There’s no such thing as writer’s block. That was invented by people in California who couldn’t write.”
I was once one of those people who believed that writer’s block exists. I told myself this lie for years thinking it’s normal to be blocked. But I’ve never told myself that I have talker’s block because it doesn’t exist.
Writer’s block is another way of saying I’m lazy and I don’t want to write. Being blocked means you don’t want to write the same way you tell your friends when they asked you about something you’re not comfortable with, then you keep mute. You’re not blocked from talking, are you? You just don’t want to talk.
The same is true for writing. As long as you can still talk, write. As long as the phone rings and you answer the call, write. It doesn’t matter if it’s perfect or not. Most of our talks aren’t perfect either. There are many hmm’s, huh’s, haa’s and ‘I think’ in our talks and they never stopped us from talking. They never stopped us from passing vital information to others because they’re part of communication. And writing itself is communication in written form. Don’t be afraid to say your hmm’s, huh’s, haa’s and ‘I think’ in your writing.
If you believe that you have to be right all the time, you won’t say a word. And this is why many people have writer’s block. Because they wanted to be right; they wanted to write something that makes perfect sense.
I’ve learned that most of the things I write are things I never thought would resonate with people. Many of them have changed people’s lives and I’m proud that I wrote them. Sometimes, a single sentence born out of a random thought can inspire people and create change. So write, write, and write until you feel there’s no more to write. Go!
“If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” –Mo Willems
Many people find it hard to admit that they’re in the wrong story. By wrong story, I mean the people we associate with. Because, after all, we’re all stories in the first place. Our relatives, friends, colleagues, mates, and acquaintances are stories we can’t live without. But, whenever you find yourself in the wrong story, it’s time to call it quit. It’s time to leave and find a story that suits your aspiration.
Believe me, this is the problem that many people struggle with. And most times, they don’t even know that they’re in the wrong story because of the evanescent benefit and pleasure they gain in the story. It takes self-awareness, courage to recognize that one is in the wrong story.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.”
The day I stepped outside of my shore (comfort zone) was the day I started seeing things differently. I’ve been to many places, lived, mixed and played with people of different colors, characters, and attitudes. And I’ve learned that people are people, everywhere. I’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. So, I find it difficult to quickly judge or condemn people.
Travel has changed my worldview about people in spite of their race, religion or status. I’ve met awesome people and also the opposite. I’ve been loved by people who are not from my race, I’ve been shown generosity by people whose religion is different from mine, and I’ve been embraced by people of higher status.
All this makes my heart melt. That there are beautiful people everywhere. And when these people tell me their stories, I feel connected that I’m home away from home. Yes, we might have different culture, upbringing, and family background, but the bottom line is—we’re all human beings. We all possess virtues and vices inside us.
This is another platform where I spend most of my time whenever I’m not doing something serious. Or times when reading becomes boring and tiring, then TED Talks become the alternative. Within or less than 20 minutes talk, my motivating spirit get elevated, my thinking and creative cap refreshed, and my inspiring vest renewed.
I’ve listened and watched several TED Talks, and I must confess that these talks are life-changing. So I urge you to at least listen and watch one TED Talks video a week. You’ll never regret doing so. TED Talks rock!
One of the things that stop us from doing what we’re able to do is the negative voice that says, “You can’t.” That voice roaring “you can’t” is not only living inside you, but also appears in disguise as friends, family, and loved ones. “After all, they want the best for you,” the negative voice would say.
They’ll join your negative voice and you’ll feel like they’re right. No, they aren’t. They’ll go further to elaborate the outcome of what you haven’t done yet, probably failure (shame). And this, you don’t want for yourself. You don’t want to be put to shame.
What’s your job? It’s easy. Clear your mind of can’t. Ask yourself a brutal, hard question: “Do I have passion for this?” If your answer is yes, then you can do it. I have often written that most “yes, you can” are not true until one asks himself if he truly has passion for it. For passion drives you to your dreamland. It helps you fight your negative voice and it’ll push you to do what you thought is impossible. So, clear your mind of can’t because if you have passion for it, you can do it. Go!
One of the things I fear most in life is change. Because it always comes in two possible ways—positive and negative. This always scares me because change is constant and one of the two will surely happen.
Oftentimes I hear husbands say, “Their wives have changed,” and I hear wives say, “Their husbands have changed.” They never expected them to change. It’s a mistake not to accept that change won’t come in one of these two ways. We’re all going to change. Either from negative to positive or from positive to negative.
And this is why I’m afraid. I’m afraid that I might change from positive to negative while hopeful that I might change from negative to positive. In order to achieve positive change, one needs to struggle and wrestle with oneself and other distractions. This is hard work. It doesn’t come easily. It’s everyday thing. The same way negative change is an everyday thing.
Change is a process. It’s scary. And it’s part of us. We won’t grow without change. So if you want positive change in your life, then be ready to pay the price which is—hard-work, consistency, patience, perseverance, and determination.