Archive | April 2014

3 Reasons Why Should Not Worry About The Future

Photo Credit: Mike Chaput

Photo Credit: Mike Chaput

The future is unknown. No one knows tomorrow. We have all heard these clichés many times, but yet we still worry about what the future holds.  Why? Because we’re afraid.

We are afraid of unknown circumstances. We have designed and painted the future that’s unknown to us in our heads and we’re afraid that our imagined future may not come into being. Then we get more worried.

Maybe you need a clearer picture of why worrying about the future doesn’t get you closer to your ideal goal.

Worrying about the future is a setback towards accomplishing one’s goals. It’s a hindrance to positive thinking. It stifles your mind not to do your best at the present because you’re afraid of what the outcome will be. Continue reading

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Stop Whining And Start Fixing

Once in a while, some of the burners on the gas stove in my dorm’s kitchen don’t work. What do the students do about it? Whine. They whine and kvetch about how frustrating the dorm is and later keep silent. What does their whining and kvetching solve? Nothing.

This has always been like that and nothing get solved until the dorm authority does something about it, and then we can cook. We always complain and wait until they solve our problems. There are even some students who chose not to complain but rather kept quiet. Those who complain and those who kept quiet are both the same.

Why?
Because they are not solving anything.
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A Criminal’s Confession About Fear

images (1)I was watching Crime Fighters the other day on YouTube. A friend had sent me the link to the video. In the video, a notorious armed robber was making a confession about how he carried out all his successful operations. For those of you who don’t know what Crime Fighters is; it’s a Nigerian TV program that shows the confession of apprehended criminals.

What got me thinking about his confession is when he was asked, “Do armed robbers also have fear?” His response was concise, “Yes, armed robbers do have fear too.” The interrogator asked, “But how do you overcome fear and go for operations successfully?” He said, “You just have to believe and do what you need to do.”

As a writer I have a lot of ideas and projects that I’d like to complete but fear hinders me from even starting them or finishing some of them. The armed robber’s confession about fear and what to do about it caused me to have a profound realization. There is a valid point in his confession, but I’m not asking you to go and rob. My point is that, there are many things that we might want to do, but fear is hindering from completing them. Yes, we all have plans, ideas, and projects and most of them are merely in our thoughts on which we don’t take any action. We are too afraid to start them; fear is crippling us. No one wants to fail or be a failure so we do nothing, as then we do not risk failing.

Fear of failure is real and natural. We all want to be safe and successful, but if no one ever failed, then how would we measure success? Besides there are even some great things that were accidentally discovered because of someone’s so called failure or a plan that did seem to go as originally planned. Penicillin may not have otherwise been discovered for example. Fear of failure incapacitates us, because it scares us into not believing in ourselves and because we don’t want to humiliate ourselves.

Thus, many times we take the safe route and take no action so that we don’t fail. Have you ever considered though that by not accomplishing your plans that you also have failed? By not accomplishing your plans you have failed yourself. You can have thousands of plans but if you allow fear to cripple you without taking action to accomplish them, then all your plans are pointless.

Fear will always haunt us. You can’t beat fear. Not even courage can obliterate fear. For courage is not the absence of fear. What can you do about it then? Just take the robber’s advice: “You just have to believe and do what you need to do.”
-MOAB © 2014

A Criminal’s Confession About Fear

Photo Credit: Krissy Venosdale (flickr.com)

Photo Credit: Krissy Venosdale (flickr.com)

I was watching Crime Fighters the other day on YouTube. A friend had sent me the link to the video. In the video, a notorious armed robber was making a confession about how he took out all his successful operations. For those of you who don’t know what Crime Fighters is; it’s a Nigerian TV program that shows the confession of apprehended criminals.

What got me thinking about his confession is when he was asked, “Do armed robbers also have fear?” His response was concise, “Yes, armed robbers do have fear too.” The interrogator asked, “But how do you overcome fear and go for operations successfully?” He said, “You just have to believe and do what you need to do.”

As a writer with a lot of ideas and projects on my table which fear is pulling them down to come into being. The armed robber’s confession about fear and what to do about it kept striking in my head. There is a valid point in his confession, but I’m not asking you to go and rob. My point is that, there are many things that we wanted to do, but fear is pulling us back. Yes, we all have that kind of plans, ideas, and projects and most of them are just only boiling down in our heads without taking action towards them. We are too afraid to start them; fear is crippling us down because if we fail, then we’re doomed.

Fear is real and it’s natural. We all want to be safe and we all want to be successful, but there’s something that fear is not telling you. What? Fear is not telling you that without failure there’s no success. Fear makes action to be illusory object. The action only takes place in our head and not actually doing. Fear knows that if we’re not doing, then we do not believe. So, it scares the hell out of us.

You can have thousands of plans but if you allow fear to cripple you down without taking action then all your plans are like the proverbial horse drawn in a book. It won’t take you anywhere.

Fear will always come. It’s always there in everything that we do. You can’t win over fear. Not even courage can do that for you. For courage is not the absence of fear. What do you have to do then? Just take the robber’s advice: “You just have to believe and do what you need to do.”
-MOAB © 2014

Why I Don’t Need Your Advice on Writing If You’re Not A Writer/Blogger

Does this title hurt you if you’re not a writer/blogger? Maybe. If you’ve tried to advise a writer/blogger on writing before then this title will upset you more. You can say this is arrogance or that I’m uppity. Whatever. The point is, if a writer is telling you that he wants to write about something, he’s not seeking for your opinion or advice on it unless he states otherwise. He only wants to have a conversation with someone not an advice. Because he believes in your story and he learns from them.

You should know that most times when you try to advise a writer even when you know that you’re not one and you’ve never written something that takes 2 hours to compose or even days sometimes then your advice is not needed because you’ve no idea what writing is all about.

You have no idea of how writers do their rituals. You have no idea of how many cup of tea and coffee writers take when the juice is not flowing. You have no idea of how difficult it is facing a blank page every day which needs to be filled with words. Not ordinary words but words that make sense. Words that get people thinking. Words that bring change and inspire people. You have no idea and that’s why your advice is useless. I don’t need your advice if you’re not a writer. This is so because only writers understand what other writers are going through.

It’s only writers that can advise writers on writing because they know it better, they eat and live writing, and they battle with the blank page every day.
-MOAB © 2014

Idea Stealers: Do They Still Exist?

Photo Credit: Mike Chaput

Photo Credit: Mike Chaput

Recently, a friend showed me some of her creative works. She designed some outfits and they were really cool. I told her to share it on her blog so that other people can know about it. In fact, sharing it with the world will let it go places and of course you’ll find the right agent to help you promote and monetize it. Her response was, “I don’t want to share it on my blog because I’m afraid that people will steal my work.”
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